Sacred Sexuality

Sitting with my friend Roseanne in the darkening twilight, I ask her a question I've been asking many people lately: "What does sacred sexuality mean to you?" Roseanne hesitates, searching for the right words. "It's not something you can force... but once in a while, you pass through into something beyond, something transcendent.... It's like a great light... Life comes pouring into existence, and for just a second, you get a chance to look at it and see it happening."

Roseanne, a mother and housewife in her early fifties, is neither a student of Tantra, nor is she versed in New Age thought. In fact, she seems an unlikely source for information on sacred sexuality, raised as she was in a strict Mormon family where sex was equated with sin. Yet the long overlooked truth is that countless "ordinary" men and women feel a natural, intuitive reverence for sex as the place where "life comes pouring into existence."

At the same time, millions of Americans also carry a heavy legacy of sexual guilt and shame which blocks their ability to appreciate sex as a divine gift. Over and over, people tell me that their parents rarely or never talked about sex, and pretended to be asexual. "In my family," one woman told me, "there were no words for sexual parts or sexual acts.... When I was eight or nine, I got out a mirror and looked at my vagina and wondered if there was something wrong with me. "Is this okay?' I thought. 'Is this how it's supposed to be?'"
Many of us were raised in religious traditions that considered sex "unspiritual" if not downright sinful. In contrast, most indigenous people revere sex as an encounter with the spirit worlds. Sobonfu Some, a teacher from the African Dagara tribe, says that her language has no words for "having sex." The equivalent Dagara phrase translates as "going on a journey together"-a journey guided, according to Dagara belief, by the spirits of the ancestors.

Moreover, the Dagara believe that though this journey is taken in private, it benefits the entire community because in the process, the human and the spirit worlds are brought into alignment. Such ideas may seem a far cry from our own. Yet I have heard hundreds of women, as well as many men, describing sex as a mysterious, profoundly sacred power.

Janet, for example, responded without a moment's hesitation to my question about the nature of sex: "Sex is the light that streams from the body." "Sex is magic," said another woman, "it's a field of magic." And yet another told me in a tone of awe, "It's the primal creative force. It moves through you, but it doesn't belong to you; you can't possess it."

Sex is not a genital activity; in fact, it is not an activity at all, but rather an aspect of the creative life force also known as Kundalini, which can enliven and electrify us at every stage of life. For Cindy, a sculptor in her seventies, the moment of her sexual awakening coincided with her birth as an artist. "In that moment, I understood that this vibrant aliveness was me. That's who I am. All the creative work I have done since then comes out of that state."

Cindy has had several deeply satisfying relationships, but today, she is happily single. Grinning, she tells me, "I felt so empowered when I realized that I would always be a sexual woman, and that I didn't have to depend on a partner. The older I get, the more I feel turned on to spirit, to my own creativity, and most of all to the crazy, magical rush of life."
Naomi, a woman in her forties, made the exhilarating discovery of her own sexual power during a women's ritual at which each participant took off her clothes and offered a nude dance. Years of childhood abuse had taught Naomi to equate sex with humiliation. And so, she entered into her dance shaking with terror. Soon however, fear gave way to a mounting surge of ecstasy that coursed through her body and intensified until it exploded into orgasm. "This joy started coursing through my body until I was rolling around on the floor like a little animal, kicking my legs and laughing. It wasn't dignified or beautiful. It was a joyful, ecstatic exuberance exploding through my body."

Sacred sexuality can be etheric and gentle, or it can be bawdy, raucous, and funny. Cutting through the ego's pretentiousness, it reconnects us with the innocent joy of our animal bodies and gifts us with the medicine of wild, liberating laughter. Therefore, the ancient Greeks called Aphrodite the "laughter-loving" goddess who was always surrounded by children.

Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D., author of Aphrodite's Daughters: Women's Sexual Stories and the Journey of the Soul
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Inner Tantra - The Intimate Path to Ecstasy

Partnership is just business without intimacy. Has your love relationship turned into a business contract? Sure, you can work, feed the children, and talk about your problems with your lover, but is that really enough? Many of us want more than technical support from our life partner.

 It gets back to the old saying, "Do you live to work or work to live?" Your love relationship should not be reduced to a chore list that you share with your lover just to get through the week.

Where's the passion? Where's the yearning? Where is the kind of love that you crave more than food? This is the nectar of love that connects lovers even when they are apart.

Remember the look in your lover's eyes, the smell of your lover's hair or taste of your lover's sweat? Love like this is possible for those who value it and are willing to step outside their own limitations.

It is a matter of opening your heart to vulnerability, compassion, honesty, and selflessness. Society doesn't teach us this kind of simple and profound love; however, it is possible to learn.

The fine art of true connection starts within you. You have to be intimate with yourself. You have to be willing to be honest with yourself and even willing to be wrong to shatter your old patterns that are not bringing intimacy into your life.

  Patterns of victimization, self-righteousness, fear, anger, lack of healthy boundaries, powerlessness, projection of past pain into present reality, and so many other wounds that keep us from truly opening our hearts to real love.

Your pain makes you believe that real love is unattainable. As long as you believe in your own limitations, you will continue to limit your reality. As you release your old limitations, you will attract more clarity than you can imagine.

Whatever you focus on gets bigger. So, as you become more conscious of your own hidden beliefs and expectations, you will see how you have created all the situations of your life.

As you become more impeccable with your words and thoughts, you will have a more ecstatic life. Your dreams and intentions will manifest most effectively when you consistently hold your entire focus on what you truly want to create.

You are responsible for you what you create. Most people create their lives from the unconscious and subconscious wounds that they have lived for many lifetimes.

Even the pain of this life alone makes most of us believe in loss, lack of love, betrayal, and distrust of the world. Most of us have experienced a lot of pain and that pain has validated our negative belief systems. Those negative beliefs create more loss scenarios that further validate our experience of victimization.

This pattern can be healed by seeing how the negative attraction system operates. Once you see your limiting beliefs you will want to change them. This is the Law of Attraction and it always works. By knowing yourself, you can consciously make choices that attract a reality with more love and intimacy.

The greatest relationship challenge is intimacy. To attract intimacy in relationship, you must first learn how to be intimate with yourself.

 This means being willing to see all of yourself in a bigger perspective. Once you learn new techniques to see your deeper patterns and intentions, you can apply the same methods to better see your partner and anyone else using your new lens.

 By seeing yourself and the others more clearly, you will be able to make more positive and conscious choices to create healthier relationships that will vitalize your life and bring more you more prosperity.
The desired outcome of all this transformational inner work is to experience as much ecstasy as possible within yourself. Then, you can share that ecstasy with your partner and everyone else you encounter everyday.

 Ecstasy can be defined as 'a state of blissful union with Source.' Your actual experience of ecstasy magnetizes more ecstatic people and situations into your world. The idea is to maintain the ecstatic state for as many hours as possible each day. The state of prolonged ecstasy then becomes your reality.

Developing clarity on the inside helps to manifest external clarity in relationships and in every other aspect of your life. What you are not conscious of within yourself still creates your daily reality. Make the choice to look deeper within to see who you really are and why you are creating the patterns that either brings you pain or pleasure. Once you see your own truth, you will want to change what is not working.

Dr. Vito Hemphill has been a practicing alternative chiropractic physician in Santa Fe since 1985 with a practice specializing in the relationship between the subtle bodies (emotional, mental, higher mental, astral, causal, etheric) and physical dis-ease.

He uses his skills as a medical intuitive to access information from the Higher Self of others for their healing. Vito has found that over 85% of all physical issues he treats, start as imbalances on the subtle body levels.

His new book, 'Four Faces in the Mirror: Seeing All of Yourself' teaches readers simple practical exercises to increase intimacy and self-awareness which translates into more ecstasy with your partner! His book, DVD, speaking engagements, and his signature '90 Days To Ecstasy Programs' are all intended to help his audience make conscious positive changes in their lives. This Inner Tantra System is a collection of Vito's best tools from 25 years of clinical practice.

His '90 Days To Ecstasy Programs' allow you to gain more intimacy and ecstasy in a modular three month telephone based coaching program. There are programs for both individuals and couples that are done via private phone sessions of at least one hour each to ask questions about your individual issues and process.
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How to Give a Girl an Orgasm Fast - Discover The Secrets To Make Her Scream Your Name In Ecstasy

You have heard about horrible tales of women faking it in bed and moaning and groaning even if you aren't anywhere near her erogenous zones. This is enough to make every man doubt his bed skills.

 But hey, you can consider this a challenge in which you need prove your machismo. As a man, you shouldn't be daunted by this. After all, sex is supposed to be a pleasurable experience and should be one of the best moments you will ever have in your life.

If you think your girl has been playing along without really enjoying it, you need to take a close, hard look at your every move in bed. Study your body language and determine whether you are giving her enough attention that she deserves.

  Some guys get lost in too much bliss that they forget that they aren't even spending time to touch his woman here and there. This self-indulgence is going to mess up your sex life and ultimately the relationship.

Remember that sex is all about giving and receiving. So you shouldn't be so focused in yourself that you forget to "give" too. Women are mysterious creatures in that they do not easily get aroused. This is why there is a need for foreplay before getting down to the main show.

The human body gives off a scent that attracts the opposite sex, making the other person excited about the prospect of getting in bed with him.

But it wouldn't hurt if you put on some manly cologne to further boost her libido and make her want to jump all over you. There are tons of colognes available in the market so you wouldn't have a hard time selecting one that fits your personality.

A good scent arouses a woman and in fact, you can say that you have won half the battle if you are able to appeal to her sense of smell.

Words are a powerful aphrodisiac too. Many men miss on the opportunity of engaging their partners because they are allergic of words. Sure you are a man of few words, but if you want to be able to access the female psyche, you are going to use words one way or another.

Women love hearing glowing praises about them, so make sure you always compliment how beautiful her hair is or how smooth her skin is.

But don't force it because it would sound phony. Say it in the most natural way at every opportunity and this will get her to respond to you sexually.

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Breast Orgasms Will Drive Your Woman Mad With Ecstasy - Find Out How to Produce Them Here

The orgasm produced by breast play is considered by many women to be the most intense that they have ever experienced. The orgasm had through this type of stimulation can also come faster than any other a man produce. That is why it is crucial to master the breast orgasm.

The two positions for the best results

As you can imagine accessing the breasts is not very easy is you have the wrong positioning. There are two main positions that will produce the best breast orgasms as fast as possible.

 The first is to have you and your lover lying on your sides and work up next to her breasts and access them from the side. 

This position really focuses on stimulation form the mouth, because one of your arms will be naturally restrain because you will be laying on it. Don't worry about that though, because you want to keep your focus on the mouth.

The best position for breast play is to have you woman straddle your pelvis and hang her breasts down in front of your face. 

This position produces amazing stimulation because all of the blood will rush to the tips of her breasts making the slightest touches extremely pleasurable. 

There are two stages to this position. The first is wrap your hands gently around the outsides of her breast and gently massaging the breasts. 

The second stage is to use your mouth to caress the skin around her nipple and pay gentle attention to her actual nipple. Speed is important here, and faster stimulation will produce the best results after an initial foreplay period.

Why this is such an amazing secret

Few men know that nipple stimulation releases a powerful chemical in the brain known as oxytocin. This chemical produces intense bonding feelings such as trust and love. 

This reaction probably has something to do with breast feeding and making a mother feel close with a child so she takes proper care of them. However, it also produces a deadly sex secret that you can use with any woman.

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